Different Perspectives

So I had a pretty interesting conversation with some people tonight about all of my life goals, and I just thought it was funny. Everyone at the table was talking about there career goals. What they wanted to do, where they wanted to work, how much money they wanted to make... etc. Then I said something that apparently was a bit shocking to them. I said that honestly, I wasn't a career driven person. I'm more of a family and life driven person. I will be honest and say that one of my biggest dreams is to get married someday and have kids. I would love to stay home with them if that's at all possible. And wow, can I tell you the looks I got at that statement. It was like I had just told them I wanted to sit on my butt all day and do nothing for a living. My favorite part was the vocal reaction I heard. "Wow, you really are setting back all of that feminist stuff aren't you?" That comment really got me thinking though. Does it make me less of a feminist because I wanted to stay at home when I have kids? Should I be ashamed because while I love my chosen career (something I am currently in school for again so that I can become better at it when I do get another job), I want to stay home when my kids are little and teach them there? Honestly, I think that the joy of feminism is that you support a woman's right to be whatever she wants to be. If a woman wants to be a lawyer, then she sure as heck has the right to do that. If a woman wants to be an executive or a tv anchor or a doctor or a physical therapist, then that's her choice and she totally deserves to be able to do that. But if a woman chooses to stay at home with her family, that's her choice too. That's her chosen profession, because yes, it is a job. My mom did it for many years not because she had to but because she loved it. Ok... off the soapbox now. Hope everyone out there in the blogosphere is doing really well! Sorry I have written lately... Here's hoping the motivation to write gets stronger.


-Sam I Am- said...

I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be a good wife and mother. This all reminds me of Julia Stiles character in Mona Lisa Smile.

-Sam I Am- said...

Yes! I would love to do an updo for ya anytime.

-Sam I Am- said...

umm holy cute blog!!!!!
love it.

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